Advice – Vocabulary
conversely – introduces a statement which is the opposite of a preceding one.
truism – a statement that is obviously true.
to go back to – to return
unsolicited – not asked for
default – something that is usual or standard.
Hey, I’m Mark, and you’re listening to The Everyday Language Podcast for English Learners.
Today’s episode is about advice. Starting with this question:
That’s one of the main points from the book Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus. This was a book, that according to CNN, was the most popular non-fiction book of the 1990’s and it sold more than 50 million copies.
The author John Gray made the point that women tend to listen and men tend to give advice.
Later when I did nursing, I met a psychologist who said some people are natural listeners. He worked with people who had drug and alcohol problems and he believed that listening to patients was far more effective than giving advice.
It’s said that younger people are flexible in their thinking. Conversely, when you are older it’s hard to change your way of thinking. I guess that’s a truism.
The greatest advice I ever had? My dad told me that after falling down the thing to do is to get up. Falling isn’t the problem, staying down is.
Another way of saying that is: never give up and learn from your mistakes.
Going back to the first question – Do guys always give advice when they should just listen?
My feeling is, in general, yes. Guys should listen more, as getting unsolicited advice isn’t very pleasant and for a lot of guys giving advice without being asked is the default setting. It’s what they automatically do.
So, this week, as well as idioms about advice, I’ll also talk about listening skills and how to be an active listener. For some people who are natural active listeners, this may not be anything new, but for those who want to improve listening skills [in terms of life skills, as well as language learning] this could be useful.
So please tune in and check it out.
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